Get Your Ex Back Now – (If You’re Sure You Want To)

If you’re struggling with a broken relationship, this new series will help you learn how to get back with your boyfriend or husband – before it's too late. Many couples are facing extra stress in their relationships because of the economic downturn. Job loss, home foreclosures, and debt can lead to extreme stress that’s difficult for a relationship to handle. Often a breakup is the result. But first, ask yourself if you really want him back. Sometimes the relationship really wasn't good for you, so think about this. If you've decided you really do want to get back together then this article might help. First of all, if he's already left don't panic. Unfortunately, when a boyfriend or spouse leaves, most women do all the wrong things. Some of the mistakes women make are:

1. Beg them to stay with us
2. Cry and get hysterical
3. Create a “medical emergency” to get their attention
4. Try to convince them we are the "love of their life"
5. Apologize for everything
6. Explain how it's not our fault
7. Promise to change and tell him this time it will be different

When this doesn't work, women make even more mistakes. This is the point that many women will do the following:

1. Get defensive
2. Have big arguments and blowups
3. Panic
4. Let things get out of control with really ugly scenes

It's not your fault that you don't know this -  but these behaviors don't work at all!  In fact, all that’s accomplished is creating more distance in the relationship. The good news is that there are things you can do now that will work! There really are specific reasons that many couples get back together in spite of serious problems. This series will look at what to do and when to do it if you are facing a breakup. We will talk about what to do to get back together and also how to stay together forever. I know you are in a lot of pain right now and this next suggestion will take all of your willpower but it must be done. For the next few weeks you need to just take a break and not contact your boyfriend or husband except for “family business” type things. And even then keep it very brief and say nothing else about the two of you and your relationship. Then work on yourself and your life now. Your life without him. This will have the effect of making him feel less trapped and he will even have a chance to think about why he fell in love with you in the first place. 

To Stay Married You Must Put Your Needs First

Dr. Pat Hogan says that to be happily married you must learn to put your own needs first before anything else. This sounds selfish but it’s really not because only when your needs are met can you truly give to  others without resentment. If you feel resentment about the time you give to your spouse you will be holding back emotionally at some level and your spouse will notice.

Some ways to take care of yourself include setting aside time to exercise, meditate, nap, eat healthy, and do fun activities. Taking the time to determine what is important to you and then making sure you make these items a priority can improve your marriage by changing your attitudes for the better.

To learn more about this and to get other great ideas visit her website: DrPatHogan.com